Ayan got a new job and the company was doing great after his advent, eventually within few months of his appointment he got promoted. Their boss gave a party to all his colleagues and their families. Zaavan, Omar, Labib and few others were sitting and having their after meal tea when Labib spoke up full of suspicion “I was waiting to get promoted since long, wonder what has Ayan done so special to get this post?”. Perhaps bribed the boss said Zaavan and others nodding in agreement. The conversation continued each one giving their own opinions on the topic. Someone said maybe he is involved in something illegal and someone even suggested that he was involved in magic! Clearly visible that they weren’t happy with his promotion. Omar stood up and said “he is a good guy and we should think better of him, maybe he just worked hard!” and walked away annoyed with the fact that no one was happy for the success of their brother and moreover were talking negative of him.
On the other hand the sisters were all congratulating Ayan’s wife Sara for her husband’s success except Adiva who was standing far away from them with Tanaz. Adiva exclaimed disgusted “how could she post such a thing about me?”
To which Tanaz replied “she never meant it for you.”
“How do you know that?”
“How do you know that it was meant for you, it was just a general reminder for everyone”emphasizing.
“I just know, didn’t you notice she didn’t even greet me.”
“That is because she didn’t see you. Lets go there and she will surely greet you when she sees you.” And surely enough did Sara greet Adiva and Tanaz upon seeing them.
Assalamualaikum😄 my amazing brothers and sisters,
This is the scenario in most of our parties and gatherings. Some people assume ill of others just because they got good job, earns more, a student getting good marks, sister looks beautiful and many more. Apparently those people who think worst of others have shortcomings themselves. Like ibn qayyim al jawziyah (rahimullah) said that our tongue👅 is like a spoon, how? Well with the spoon we can taste a pot full of food, in the same way the tongue scoops out whats within our hearts. If our hearts are clean so will be our tongue and if the hearts are filthy so will be our tongue. This is one of the reasons for our negative speech.
Negative assumptions are indeed a great problem and what we need to do is to close the door on them even before they start developing within our minds. Most of the arguments, altercations and squabbling between friends, family, with different people in communities, schools, job places you name it, are because of negative assumptions. So and so said that, he said this, she said that….and it goes on. Allah says in the Quran-
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” (Surah Hujurat verse 12)
Some assumptions are obviously fine if they are good assumptions but negative assumptions are sin as mentioned in the verse. Now lets analyze how are assumptions, spying and backbiting connected. If a person assumes something about someone the urge to know more about their assumption can lead to spying, which can further lead that person to do backbiting. Spying and disclosing others secrets is not the right way to go about and about backbiting as we know it is equal to a dreadful deed, eating the flesh of your brother. As for the proper definition of backbiting lets take a look at our greatest source-
Abu Dharr once asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah (backbiting)? He replied: It is to mention about your brother that which he detests. Abu Dharr said: O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him? He replied: Know that when you mention that which is in him, you have committed his gheebah, and when you mention that which is not in him, then you have slandered him.
We are all effected by this disease at some point of time and we need to find the cure for it before it takes a major form and cures will be mentioned in my next post. But for now as Allah mentioned in the verse that he is merciful and accepting of repentance we should seek his mercy and forgiveness if we have done backbiting and assumed wrong of others.
 Reported by Abu Hurairah(RA) Reference : Sahih Muslim 2589 In-book reference : Book 45, Hadith 91