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…Because it’s not Ramadan!

Assalamualaikum 😄 my amazing brothers and sisters,

A few days back I went to meet a relative of mine with my mum. I was observing the fast of Shawwal, and since it was maghrib (prayer at sunset) time I had to break my fast there. There was this little sister around 6 yrs who was playing with me and we had our dates 🍮 together. Later on I went inside a room to pray maghrib and she came along. Now as I wanted to pray, I took a prayer mat and asked her “where is the Qiblah (direction)?”. I have prayed their before also, but I just couldn’t remember the right direction. So she pointed me straight, but since she was a child I just asked her again “pakka?” meaning “sure?”. So she replied,”yeah, I also pray in this direction”. Then I well assured moved ahead and went on with my prayer.

After I was done with my prayer I asked her, “So why didn’t you join me for the prayer?” playfully.

“Because it is NOT Ramadan and I am not even fasting.”

Well I was quiet for few seconds after which I explained her that Salah (prayer) is to be prayed at all times, not just ramadan or when you are fasting.

Ramadan came and went, we had our Eid celebrations also, now what? Back to the pretty same life. I don’t think I should write anymore because what the little sister said speaks tons in itself. Just remember that to make your child what you want, you need to be one yourself. You can’t run around them shouting to pray or do something that you don’t do yourself. See the depth of what she said, maybe you can find greater lessons than me and if you don’t mind do share them also. 😊

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Think before thinking negative!🚫

Ayan got a new job and the company was doing great after his advent, eventually within few months of his appointment he got promoted. Their boss gave a party to all his colleagues and their families. Zaavan, Omar, Labib and few others were sitting and having their after meal tea when Labib spoke up full of suspicion “I was waiting to get promoted since long, wonder what has Ayan done so special to get this post?”. Perhaps bribed the boss said Zaavan and others nodding in agreement. The conversation continued each one giving their own opinions on the topic. Someone said maybe he is involved in something illegal and someone even suggested that he was involved in magic! Clearly visible that they weren’t happy with his promotion. Omar stood up and said “he is a good guy and we should think better of him, maybe he just worked hard!” and walked away annoyed with the fact that no one was happy for the success of their brother and moreover were talking negative of him.

On the other hand the sisters were all congratulating Ayan’s wife Sara for her husband’s success except Adiva who was standing far away from them with Tanaz. Adiva exclaimed disgusted “how could she post such a thing about me?”

To which Tanaz replied “she never meant it for you.”

How do you know that?”

How do you know that it was meant for you, it was just a general reminder for everyone”emphasizing.

I just know, didn’t you notice she didn’t even greet me.”

That is because she didn’t see you. Lets go there and she will surely greet you when she sees you.” And surely enough did Sara greet Adiva and Tanaz upon seeing them.

Assalamualaikum😄 my amazing brothers and sisters,

This is the scenario in most of our parties and gatherings. Some people assume ill of others just because they got good job, earns more, a student getting good marks, sister looks beautiful and many more. Apparently those people who think worst of others have shortcomings themselves. Like ibn qayyim al jawziyah (rahimullah) said that our tongue👅 is like a spoon, how? Well with the spoon we can taste a pot full of food, in the same way the tongue scoops out whats within our hearts. If our hearts are clean so will be our tongue and if the hearts are filthy so will be our tongue. This is one of the reasons for our negative speech.

Negative assumptions are indeed a great problem and what we need to do is to close the door on them even before they start developing within our minds. Most of the arguments, altercations and squabbling between friends, family, with different people in communities, schools, job places you name it, are because of negative assumptions. So and so said that, he said this, she said that….and it goes on. Allah says in the Quran-

O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” (Surah Hujurat verse 12)

Some assumptions are obviously fine if they are good assumptions but negative assumptions are sin as mentioned in the verse. Now lets analyze how are assumptions, spying and backbiting connected. If a person assumes something about someone the urge to know more about their assumption can lead to spying, which can further lead that person to do backbiting. Spying and disclosing others secrets is not the right way to go about and about backbiting as we know it is equal to a dreadful deed, eating the flesh of your brother. As for the proper definition of backbiting lets take a look at our greatest source-

Abu Dharr once asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah (backbiting)? He replied: It is to mention about your brother that which he detests. Abu Dharr said: O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him? He replied: Know that when you mention that which is in him, you have committed his gheebah, and when you mention that which is not in him, then you have slandered him.[1]

We are all effected by this disease at some point of time and we need to find the cure for it before it takes a major form and cures will be mentioned in my next post. But for now as Allah mentioned in the verse that he is merciful and accepting of repentance we should seek his mercy and forgiveness if we have done backbiting and assumed wrong of others.

[1] Reported by Abu Hurairah(RA) Reference : Sahih Muslim 2589 In-book reference  : Book 45, Hadith 91

Let’s talk about the future!

Assalamalaikum – May peace be upon you my amazing sisters and brothers out there.

As being a human there always has been a common interest of knowing the future due to our limited knowledge, to know the unseen in order to make it better or save ourselves from the harm that might come along. Though unaware of the days to come, I am sure we have all planned for the future to some extent. Each one of us has a plan on how to spend the rest of our week, month or year, from adults to children. We have planned for our career and other things but we aren’t certain about it. Planing to be a doctor, engineer, architect, fashion designer, though how many of us are certain about our plans-none, because the plan is never ours!

I am not a magician or horoscope reader (and they are not permitted in Islam) unaware of much details about the future but I can show one aspect of our life that will definitely happen, I will show you the future. 🎆 Excited to see?!

Yes! That is exactly what you are thinking💭. An unwanted though foretold reality. Everyone knows about it but little do we reflect upon it or act upon it. What do I mean by act upon death? It means to prepare for it, a spiritual preparation by increasing ones good deeds. Realize it early better than late, don’t let our death be realization of other person. Remember before you do any wrong, it can be the last thing you do and I am sure we all wish to die in the best state of our life. Since there is no second round, it’s just game over. I pray that may Allah the almighty take our souls in a situation when we are closest to him than we can ever be in our entire life. Ameen! . I am not trying to scare 😛 you it is just a simple reminder for you and MYSELF. So what we need to do is be happy 😄 have faith and hope in the creator of the worlds and keep on doing good deeds no matter how trivial it is. Do the obligatory and try for the voluntary. 
           كُلُّ نَفْسٍ ذَائِقَةُ الْمَوْتِ ۖ ثُمَّ إِلَيْنَا تُرْجَعُونَ
Every soul will taste death. Then to Us will you be returned (Surah Al-‘Ankabut 29: 57)
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Simple life hack for happiness 😄

Assalamualaikum sisters and brothers,

Another amazing day, the sun is shinning bright, the sky is clear but there is emptiness as always. There are amazing dresses in the wardrobe, mouth-watering yum food, cosy little comfy bed and money to buy the latest version of anything but it doesn’t bring joy. It feels like there is a vacuum in life. Yup-this is the complain of many people out there.

Heard something very beautiful today which just got me, pondering on how true it is and it reminded me of a sister I recently conversed with telling me her feeling of voidness. Thinking of what exactly happiness means I checked it out in a dictionary 😏 and I found this – Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

Those people who base their happiness on materialistic things for them happiness is never stable it jumps from one version  of something to another and when that article becomes the old version happiness also fades….

Now let me tell you the beautiful thing I heard today, according to Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimullah-May Allah have mercy on him) our heart  is like a fish 🐬? How are they similar?! Before this let me tell you a thing, when you do anything for the sake of Allah even if it is a minor task it seems so huge and worthy and when you do a big heavy task to please others it seems like a inni mini tiny thing…⁉ Everything that we do in this world can be done for the sake Allah if done sincerely, from sleeping to exercising, from eating to going to relive ourselves. Telling Bismillah before doing things, showing gratitude to Allah when sitting with your family because Alhumdulillah we have one, when eating yummy food, when going to parties with pretty clothes perhaps there are people out there who are  unable fill their stomach, so be grateful to your creator.

So lets continue with the comparison of the heart and the fish, what is the condition of a fish without water? Well, when the fish is taken out of water it becomes all crazy and restless trying to get in the water in the very same way our heart when taken away from the remembrance  of Allah it becomes fish-n-heartcrazy, unhappy  and restless……

I saw videos for easy and simple life hacks for school, makeup, even brush 😛, everyday life etc. and for me this is a simple and beautiful life hack for happiness.☺ Do share your life hacks that makes your life easy and beautiful!

Verily in the remembrance of Allah 💕do hearts find peace!!! {Quran 13: 28}